Posts tagged sexism
Posts tagged sexism
What I do want to tell you is that you need to stop using the “wives, sisters, daughters” argument when you are talking to people defending the Steubenville rapists. Or any rapists. Or anyone who commits any kind of crime, violent or otherwise, against a woman.
In case you’re unfamiliar with this line of rhetoric, it’s the one that goes like this:
You should stop defending the rapists and start caring about the victim. Imagine if she was your sister, or your daughter, or your wife. Imagine how badly you would feel if this happened to a woman that you cared about.
Framing the issue this way for rape apologists can seem useful. I totally get that. It feels like you’re humanizing the victim and making the event more relatable, more sympathetic to the person you’re arguing with.
You know what, though? Saying these things is not helpful; in fact, it’s not even helping to humanize the victim. What you are actually doing is perpetuating rape culture by advancing the idea that a woman is only valuable in so much as she is loved or valued by a man.
The Steubenville rape victim was certainly someone’s daughter. She may have been someone’s sister. Someday she might even be someone’s wife. But these are not the reasons why raping her was wrong. This rape, and any rape, was wrong because women are people. Women are people, rape is wrong, and no one should ever be raped. End of story.
The “wives, sisters, daughters” line of argument comes up all the fucking time. President Obama even used it in his State of the Union address this year, saying,
“We know our economy is stronger when our wives, mothers, and daughters can live their lives free from discrimination in the workplace, and free from the fear of domestic violence.”
This device, which Obama has used on more than one occasion, is reductive as hell. It defines women by their relationships to other people, rather than as people themselves. It says that women are only important when they are married to, have given birth to, or have been fathered by other people. It says that women are only important because of who they belong to.
Women are not possessions.
Women are people.
I seriously cannot believe that I have to say this in 2013.
I only posted a small piece of the article but its brilliant. Please go read the rest of it. The “lets protect women because they are our mothers, sisters, and wives” crap needs to go.
This is such an amazing project about bringing awareness to unimaginably high maternal mortality rates in the US.
Critiquing a Disney movie does not mean we hate Disney, think Walt Disney is the devil, or have some stick up our ass. Most people who critique Disney do enjoy the films and do actually like Disney. We are also about to think critically about the media we consume. Disney was no saint. He heavily relied on stereotypes in his films. Haven’t you notice all his female heroines, animals or people, are kind, caring, and compassionate? That is the stereotypical representation of what a woman should be in the early 20th century. Snow, Cinderella, and Aurora are also all seen cleaning in their films, i.e. they are domestic. Two of them were also being abused with was a fucking plot point in their movies. Disney heavily relied on the evil step mother trope in both Cinderella and Snow White. Disney relies on racist stereotypes in Dumbo (the crows), Lady and the Tramp (the cats and Chihuahua), and Peter Pan (the Native Americans) to name a few. Does that mean these movies are inherently bad and evil? No. However, people do start to believe the stereotypes in these movies because they are reenforced by our culture at large. Disney is a huge cultural force in the 20th and 21st centuries. There is no denying that. Disney movies, while entertainment, do shape how people view society. For that reason it is incredibly important to critique Disney. That doesn’t mean we want to kill your childhood or hate on Walt Disney for shits and giggles.
A very annoyed feminist and Disney fan.
Do I really even have to say it?
If you try to stop me from eating a real brownie by putting a Fiber One bar in my hand, I will break you.
So tired of it.
Because seriously, nobody batted an eye when I was little and walked out of the theater after seeing Toy Story proclaiming, “Woody is so cool! I want to be just like him!”
Nobody cared that I was a little girl looking up to a male character. Not a single person would have been upset if I wanted a Sully toy, or if I admired Simba more than Nala. No parents said to their daughters, “No, I’m not taking you to see Up! because there’s no females for you to look up to!”
Because as long as it was men being awesome, parents decided that our kids could see through typical gender stereotypes. They decided, “my kid can learn something from this film even though she is a girl and that character is a boy.”
But as soon as the roles are reversed everyone is up in arms about it. Well that’s nonsense. Because if you’re really not sexist, you’ll realize that it’s just as fine for your daughter to like Finding Nemo as it is for your son to like Brave.
So get off your sexist pedestal, stop complaining, and take your son to see Brave. And hope to all that is holy that he learns something from it…like how to fight against the current patriarchal system. Because he sure as hell isn’t going to learn that from you.
Madonna Whore by Betty Dodson
I could go on a long rant about how in 2012 we shouldn’t be seeing shit like this but I cannot since I am not surprised. I wish I could be surprised but every freaking company does it. I’m not surprised Scholastics does it. We can just add them to the list that uses gender stereotypes to sell their products.
…is that he’s a domestic violence committing, female co-star intimidating asshole. You can read the details of what he did to his female partner at the link. Regarding his treatment of female costars: Kiera Knightly didn’t want him spanking her during one of their…
Can I just say that I don’t want to grow into this world. I want to curl up and die now, while I’m still sort of protected by ~law~ on some level. I don’t want to grow up into this foolishness. I would write a long, insightful paragraph or whatever, but honestly this is way too prevalent and way too close for me to feel anything other than sadness right now.